Not Knowing What’s Next…..

Not Knowing What’s Next….. I’m at a point in my life right now, where I do not know what’s next, for I do not know what is to come, when or who my next relationship is with, where would my next career take me or take place. What I do know is that I’m moving forward, taking each day as it is handed to me, and trying my best to make each one count and make the best of it by making it productive. Knowing what I want to do, but capable of only doing what I need to do, which in many cases of our lives is never the same. In order to do what you want to do, requires certain amenities, tools, steps, and planning. But where do we find the time, to grasp those things we want to do and the things we’re passionate about, without losing hold of what we have to do, what’s demanded and needed out of us now. As my epoch proceeds itself, and moves on with or without me, I have no choice but to move along with it. I look into not only what I can do each day to make it count, but into someone else’s day and find a place where I can make their day count too.

When we come to these certain points in our lives, you have to learn to take them positively. I’ve learned to not beat myself up over what I have no control over, the situations where I could not have change the outcome, or done different. I’ve also learn to not base my past actions on what I've do now, just to have assurance on bypassing the same mistakes for my future, but to just be positive in not KNOWING whats next.

This is when God loves to do the most in our lives, which is to surprise us by the things we’ve taken trust in, and to bring us out of.  So when you think of where you are now, the routine of your life, rather if it’s at your employment or in a relationship, relax and enjoy it everyday.

Without knowing what’s to come is the best part about living, take the time and inspect your own expectancy, and surprise yourself. Do something out the ordinary for once, try something new, learn something different, take a different route home. Don’t wait until you’re forced out of that normal routine and left in a state of not knowing what’s going on, or what’s happening. Start now and plan for a better future, an exciting outcome. I’ve been taken from a routine in my life that has been consistent for more than five years, and it took me days to understand this is not my plan nor my schedule, but to realize what I was missing, what I am now able to appreciate and love about life. I still don’t know what’s to come, however I know something is coming far greater than where I was, and not knowing what that is but the caliber of what it is going to be.

Trusting in God is not knowing, but believing! There’s A Reason for every Season!

Losing

 lost

Losing is not only something hard to face, but to move on from, depending on what was lost, or to ever regain the feeling of moving forward without what was lost. Losing can break you, discourage a thought or movement, or to have faith in anything or anyone again. But it could also motivate you to restore what was lost and replace it with something greater, larger, or better than before. I’ve lost so many times in my life this year. But as I now look back at all the things I’ve lost, I do not understand the strength that I had, or where it came from. How do I locate it for other hard times, who gave it to me, and how did I find the secret key to unlock the sacred box it’s kept in. Not realizing such a power of this super natural strength I had only surfaced when I really needed it.

It’s a struggle and fight to only focus on what you have now, and not what you had. Things are remove for a reason, a purpose, and a sense of higher development.

At the time of losing, you’re not able to see the forthcoming, the opportunity, the prospect, or hope of something good. We’re thinking and analyzing the question and only thought, which is ‘why’. You’re feeling hurt, deserted, disappointed, hopelessly confused. You even get angry, looking for someone to blame, after you’ve blamed yourself enough. You don't want to be the reason for the lost, you’ve contemplate everything you’ve done right, things you could of done to avoid the lost of losing something. I’m here to tell you... I’ve lost, and lost, and lost, and now I’ve gained more than I ever had in the first place of losing. As a friend told me, at time it’s hard to move on but you have let your arms catch you by the ankles so that you’re able to walk through it… It’s hard to trust into something good, that you’re not sure of what it is yet, but to know its coming. So we have to get up, and keep going, find the motivation in us to know everything is going to be “just fine”. This is a setback preparing us for comeback, becoming a better person understanding life’s curves and detours. Detouring from a regular route to see another way with a much better scenery. Not missing out on God’s creation of moving through life too fast.

 A season of losing is not defeat nor accident, but all an encouraging motivation of lifting to another echelon. A reflection of the past to continue to the next phase, that moves forward to more chapters. Which leads to an unforgettable ending. Losing, a scene of slow motion, causing the grasp of your mind and hands a head start on life’s most prize possession. A lead of catching the world.

In order to motivate ourselves or to see what we’re missing, we have to experience a low point, which in some cases is losing something that your eyes are contracted on, everything and every moment counts, evaluations are in movement… You’re now seeing what was once blind. Colors of mist and calmness, an outlook on what’s to come and not lost, remember to reflect on being still when losing something, try to understand what is to come, and what has now ended. In other words look into the sacredness of the future and take along with you the memories, the lessons, and the gifts of what is now gone and to become.

 

What is marriage

 

for women, we have always imagined what “our day” would be like.

    You know our day!

                                                              *Our Wedding*

The flowers, the chapel, colors of the brides maid dresses, who would be our brides maid J, and last but not least who will be at the other end of that walk standing next to the priest….. Really at the time and point, must women don’t consider that the most important thing, just being married or finding someone who’ll consider marrying them. Not sure on how much, or if Men think of their wedding day verses the fact of even wanting to get married, due to the stimulations they are drilled with, in the beginning of what marriage consist of, most words come to the their minds is don’t, can’t, no longer, ending etc. which it pretty humorous!

As long as I can remember, I’ve never thought or anticipated being married, if anything, I long to one day fall in love, and to look at marriage as the thought of coming afterwards. Why do people mostly women, be hopeful of getting married, before even meeting the person you are to fall in love with, if love is even thought into the equation? How do you anticipate something you have never touched or you’re not close to having, or not even being in a relationship, what do people think marriage consist of? Not living alone, having children, what exactly? What is it to want something so bad at a point of not even being in love yet? Just knowing marriage is what you want. If you were to ask me if I want to get married I would tell you “I don’t know”, well why don’t I know? I can’t tell you I want something that I never had before nor base it on what I see others have, I can tell you this, I have always dreamt of the day of falling in love, I’ve experience that before, I know when two people love each other unconditionally a bond is set in motion, a halo surrounding, unbreakable. But to know if marriage falls in the equilibrium and love not, is something I don’t.

What marriage means to me is to first fall in love, you meet someone, the common interest and affection you have for that person over exceeds the merely thought of losing them, from both sides, eventually with “time”, your love is considered to be so sacred and valuable to you both, the only thing left to do is to have your union blessed, in a place that is sacred and consecrated by our Lord Jesus Christ, and no other place is greater nor sacred then his house, the house of God. Which entitles you to share this blessed event with those near and dear to you as with family, friends and loved ones, for something you want them to feel a part of, as they join and welcome a new soul to their families, an  invitation of growing your family in love with God,  your only witness that matters… That my friend is what I consider marriage!

Below is a common definitions you can find in a dictionary explaining marriage, which today most people consist it to be, a piece of paper, a confirmation, a contract,, a law proof documentation stating what you are entitled to, if and when your marriage does not make it. We have prenuptials in many occasions.

Dictionary Version, Marriage: the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.

Today, so many people get married for the wrong reasons, many different reasons but the right one. The convenience of being married, combine income, or in most cases marrying for the other persons income, also to have the image, or to wear the 5 carrot ring, One sided marriages, meaning one person being dedicated to the marriage while the other was talked into it. And the most important, when asked to say those words, “I’m Married”.

Basically, a lot of today’s marriages are based on the reasons of selfish acts and not the meaning of what it was intended for… Here’s my opinion, if you are one of many who knows in their heart, they want to be married, make sure you know who you are and the person you are suppose to be internally first, by learning who you are, you’ll gain knowledge of what you want and deserve, don’t settle, understand marriage is meant for a union to create an atmosphere filled with joy and adoration, to make and produce additions to life, to be a value to another life, and to be valued by someone’s life, to not take it for granted, to always be honorable, supportive, and caring. Until you’re able to understand the meaning of what love is, you will never experience the real true meaning of being married!

43% of marriages end in divorce, if you’re married, or planning on being married, put God in your relationship first and now, look for the things that you can work on, verses helping your other half work on their own self problems or issues, to every problem there’s a solution, it just takes the two of you willing to find it…..together.