What are you wearing.... for I love what I am!

I absolutely LOVE SHOPPING! Just the thought of having some new shoes on my feet, with a complimentary pants or dress excites me more than other pleasures in life! Well not all other pleasures.(wink)

I find therapy in shopping, its therapeutic.

Not everyone has a sense of fashion. Some people wear things that just doesn't flatter their bodies or their personalities. Especially women. For me when I shop I don't necessary look at how a garment hangs on the hanger, but imagine the way it would hang on my body shape. I have a small frame at the top, small waist, but wide hips! and small calves. So I look for clothing, that has the hour glass shape but also gives me room around my hips. I don't force myself into anything that doesn't do my body or my confidence any good. I am also very curvy, so there's not much room for tight fitting clothes. A great loose outfit hangs beautifully on me. Some women force themselves in a shirt that gives their breast no time apart from each other; so they're breast try to escape through their cleavage. There is also a not so flattering rule to wearing your clothes too loosely. Why wear something that is too big on your body and gives your shape no voice or appearance. I tell my friends all the time, wear clothes in which you are comfortable in. Something that does not consist of constant adjusting, pulling, or fixing. That is not comfort, but that is the constant need of not being sure of what you are wearing. But something that can carry itself; by making you look flattering without having to constantly remind your clothes of what to do. Many times a person may see someone on TV or in a magazine with a flattering outfit on and assume that they can wear it too. No no no.. You can have that sense of style but not the exact fit.

  For curvier women, like myself. I can see a woman in a short skirt, that looks amazing on her, and even though the skirt is short is doesn't look like evening wear because her frame is small. But for me since I'm a 27 in a waist but a 46 in the hips, I could wear the skirt but put on some flattering tights with it so that it won't put so much attention on my butt, rather than my long legs.. Its called emphasizing and not copy catting. You have to find your sense of fashion and not grasp to someone else's. There are a lot of women wearing clothes in which they really shouldn't, but think that it looks good on them because they are able to get it on. That is not a good scenario.


I am also one of those people who do not feel as though I have to match EVERYTHING! Have you ever seen those women who have the earrings to match with the purse, the belt, ring, eye shadow and so forth. I hate that! Even though it may work for some of you, I don't necessarily try to do it. I can put some dark pants on with a red shirt, and throw on some leopard shoes, and absolutely pull it off! it's called confidence. My shoes barely ever match what I have on, but it is how you wear it, and the confidence you wear it with.


And if you heard it before, you're going to hear it again. Every woman does not have to be skinny in order to look great! I'm not skinny, I have curves, and I think curves are absolutely beautiful on women.

Women that are unique in their own way is what I find to be beautiful! The different shapes and curves of every woman is the story in which she has about her own body. Why would a woman want to change her own story in order to tell the story of another woman's shape. I absolutely love my body, I wouldn't trade it for anything. Even though at times I have to get my pants altered in the waist area, or can't pull some pants up over my hips. I wouldn't trade it! Love yourself, love your body, find your own definition of your fashion style, and give the statement of a lifetime.

What the F...!

If you have read any of my posts in the last six months you would be able to notice that I was in a very difficult situation within my career, with myself, and learning life lessons. I am just now making it to healing, and relief phase. But in all I still have questions that I feel or unanswered, but I'm calmer, more happier, and feel like I'm finally catching my breath. OK,... wait... here it comes.. whoo! (exhale). I finally feel strong, I was at a point in which I felt tired and weak everyday. I stop working out, I start losing wieght, I wasn't conscious of most of the things around me. But now I'm feeling free of burden, stress, and most of all anger. I'm loving life again.

On another note there is so much effort people put into to hating, sabotaging, and disliking someone for reason they find are justifiable.

I am a member of Lakewood Church in Houston Texas, home of Pastor Joel Osteen. And today I found myself in a situation where individuals were trying to persuade me of reasons that they feel Joel is inadequate to speak. They were saying he speaks BS, that his messages or corrupt, and that cannot be trusted. Majority of these people have never been in the same room with him, shook his hand, or even been to one of his sermons. Others have found there opinion through gossip, opinions of TV analysts, false statements, and so on. One person even found it necessary to show me a sermon of another pastor giving a message dissecting one of Joel Osteen's messages. I did not understand it. I thought that was absurb. If you don't like the way someone is doing something, or how they are speaking, why put effort into hating, or disliking that person or the thing that person does?

I feel like the main term people forget to dissect, judge, analyze, or even try to do is communicate. With the situation I experienced in the last year, the failed relationships I have had, the friendships that no longer exist, I feel has always failed because of the failure of communication. People interpret what one person says differently than what they could have possibly meant. They take that meaning and run with it, feed off of it, make it bigger in their mind on a negative level, let it fester and then become destructive. There are so many things a person can put their energy into. Get a positive meaning to life, find a hobby, start an organization, volunteer, do something! Rather than hating or belittling another human being for doing something bigger than themself.

Be apart of the good things the world has to offer, rather than festering on the things that you have to give negative thought into.