What is marriage

 

for women, we have always imagined what “our day” would be like.

    You know our day!

                                                              *Our Wedding*

The flowers, the chapel, colors of the brides maid dresses, who would be our brides maid J, and last but not least who will be at the other end of that walk standing next to the priest….. Really at the time and point, must women don’t consider that the most important thing, just being married or finding someone who’ll consider marrying them. Not sure on how much, or if Men think of their wedding day verses the fact of even wanting to get married, due to the stimulations they are drilled with, in the beginning of what marriage consist of, most words come to the their minds is don’t, can’t, no longer, ending etc. which it pretty humorous!

As long as I can remember, I’ve never thought or anticipated being married, if anything, I long to one day fall in love, and to look at marriage as the thought of coming afterwards. Why do people mostly women, be hopeful of getting married, before even meeting the person you are to fall in love with, if love is even thought into the equation? How do you anticipate something you have never touched or you’re not close to having, or not even being in a relationship, what do people think marriage consist of? Not living alone, having children, what exactly? What is it to want something so bad at a point of not even being in love yet? Just knowing marriage is what you want. If you were to ask me if I want to get married I would tell you “I don’t know”, well why don’t I know? I can’t tell you I want something that I never had before nor base it on what I see others have, I can tell you this, I have always dreamt of the day of falling in love, I’ve experience that before, I know when two people love each other unconditionally a bond is set in motion, a halo surrounding, unbreakable. But to know if marriage falls in the equilibrium and love not, is something I don’t.

What marriage means to me is to first fall in love, you meet someone, the common interest and affection you have for that person over exceeds the merely thought of losing them, from both sides, eventually with “time”, your love is considered to be so sacred and valuable to you both, the only thing left to do is to have your union blessed, in a place that is sacred and consecrated by our Lord Jesus Christ, and no other place is greater nor sacred then his house, the house of God. Which entitles you to share this blessed event with those near and dear to you as with family, friends and loved ones, for something you want them to feel a part of, as they join and welcome a new soul to their families, an  invitation of growing your family in love with God,  your only witness that matters… That my friend is what I consider marriage!

Below is a common definitions you can find in a dictionary explaining marriage, which today most people consist it to be, a piece of paper, a confirmation, a contract,, a law proof documentation stating what you are entitled to, if and when your marriage does not make it. We have prenuptials in many occasions.

Dictionary Version, Marriage: the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.

Today, so many people get married for the wrong reasons, many different reasons but the right one. The convenience of being married, combine income, or in most cases marrying for the other persons income, also to have the image, or to wear the 5 carrot ring, One sided marriages, meaning one person being dedicated to the marriage while the other was talked into it. And the most important, when asked to say those words, “I’m Married”.

Basically, a lot of today’s marriages are based on the reasons of selfish acts and not the meaning of what it was intended for… Here’s my opinion, if you are one of many who knows in their heart, they want to be married, make sure you know who you are and the person you are suppose to be internally first, by learning who you are, you’ll gain knowledge of what you want and deserve, don’t settle, understand marriage is meant for a union to create an atmosphere filled with joy and adoration, to make and produce additions to life, to be a value to another life, and to be valued by someone’s life, to not take it for granted, to always be honorable, supportive, and caring. Until you’re able to understand the meaning of what love is, you will never experience the real true meaning of being married!

43% of marriages end in divorce, if you’re married, or planning on being married, put God in your relationship first and now, look for the things that you can work on, verses helping your other half work on their own self problems or issues, to every problem there’s a solution, it just takes the two of you willing to find it…..together.